How do you make your -life amazing and alive in a marriage?

Husband wants to have . I don't. I feel like its getting old and its always the same thing! He's not a romantic type person either. I bought a kama sutra book and its collecting dust! He said I should tell him what I want.. why? Guys should just know we like everything.. well I do anyway but he annoys me when he says "what you got goin on down there" is that a serious way of asking to have with me geez...